Saturday, January 05, 2008


Actually, I am not sure if I have written about this before. But I think I have. Anyway, adoption is never far away in my brain. Sometimes it is more prevalent than others, and I am not sure what sparks it. Probably that a lot of people around me have had (or are going to have) a baby. Dion and I went out of town yesterday, so on the hour drive back home we talked a little bit about adoption. He says that he is not against it, but the cost of it scares him. I have thought about that too, but then I think well, if we had a baby on our own (which is physically impossible) there would be costs for that too.

I don't know the answer to the financial part of it. I do know that I feel like we are not complete yet, and that does not mean I don't love and appreciate my girls to death, I just feel like I am missing something (besides my boobs).

And that brings a whole different dilemma. Cancer. I am not at the 5 year mark. Does that matter? I have no clue. I have thought about talking to my oncologist and asking if he can write a letter stating what he has been telling me for a couple of years, that he feels I am done with the beast. I guess the question that is really on my mind is would anyone even give us a child knowing that I have had cancer?

Please, if you are reading this, and maybe have some insight for me, contact me. I really don't know where to start with all of this, or if it is even possible.


Shari said...

Hi Sue, I don't know the answer to your question. :( Just wanted to say that I hope you had a great Christmas and Happy New Year. May it be blessed and happy.


Fran said...

Hi Sue,

The cancer issue will depend on which path you use to adopt (international, domestic, etc.). I know to adopt in China you have to have reached the 5 year mark. We are in the process of getting licensed to foster in the hopes of being able to adopt along the way. I don't have to be 5 years cancer-free for this. I just have to have my oncologist fill out a form stating that I am currently healthy and my potential to live a long (healthy) life is good. I don't know if you are set on infant adoption, but there are lots of children within the foster system that are legally free to adopt and just need a family that loves them. Also many of these adoptions are paid for by the state or are very inexpensive in comparison to international adoption. Feel free to track me down if you want to ask anything else or just talk about adoption after cancer.


Eliza Brock said...

Oh wow, I didn't even think about the cancer side of it. I guess that might throw a kink in things huh? good luck with the process.

Victoria VanZile said...

Hi Sue! it's vicki from waypost! lisa weifenbach found your blog and passed it on to me. i haven't read much of it yet but this adoption post is something i just had to respond to right away. my husband and i are in the process of filling out an application for adoption. (he's transgender--female to male--so we can't have kids au natural) we are going through Children's Home Society in St. Paul MN where we live. I would guess that your cancer (congrats on beating that, by the way. my mom has been breast cancer free for about 8 years now) won't affect your chances. I would call and ask.

Also for the $$$, some banks give loans or if you own your home, you can take out an equity loan. For Children's Home if you are doing a domestic adoption it costs about $5000 or something like that. (The only reason we have enough money is because my husband has a trust fund from when his mom died)

It's good to find you!