Friday, February 03, 2006


Tater's castle

Our new little Cotton.

Our little girl is almost 2!

Nadia's new bed...she now sleeps about10-14 hours a night. She kind of likes it.

Claire and Tater

Nice.

Pretty little girls

Bath time

Snuggle time.

Ironic, Quirky, Funny, Stupid

Just a random list of things.....

I count stairs when I go up or down them. Always.

I have quit biting my nails on 7 different occasions. None have kept.

When Dion and I first met, he was metal, I was grunge. Now we are a mix of everything.

I can't stand finding hair on my fingers after showering. Then I have to do chemo which makes chunks of hair fall out into your fingers.

The lady who did my pink ribbon tattoo was diagnosed with breast cancer this past summer.

I drive a minivan.

I am starting to warm up to the color pink....by force.

I never really liked cats before. Now we have two, Tater and Cotton (or Girl Kitty as Claire calls her).

All the complaining I did about hauling Dion's GI Joe junk around for all these years, was in vain. He has made us a nice little profit on eBay with those same toys.

Before becoming an English major, I was an Early Ed major. I now work in two grade schools, neither as a teacher or anything dealing with my English major.

One third grader at work says that I am 13 years old. 31 backwards. I will be 12 this year.

If I didn't have my miscarriage before Claire, I would not have found my tumor myself.

This past summer I broke my finger doing laundry. My ring is still bent.

I still love the movie "Annie".

Diet Coke....breakfast of champions (me).

Nadia calls Sponge Bob "Pee Pop".

Some of my closest friends in town are 10-20 years older than I am. I like to remind them of that.

This year Dion and I will have been married for 8 years.

If it didn't cost so much, I would love to build a deck off of the end of our driveway.

I still want 4 kids.

When I was diagnosed with cancer I remember holding my head in my hands bending over (as much as I could 8 months pregnant) and crying, then sitting back up and saying "What do we do now?" and thinking that what I said sounded like a line from a movie.

I can't remember what my life was like before we had kids. What the heck did I do all of the time?

I wish I had the nerve to sit down and write the books I have been dreaming.

If you look at the characters of Winnie the Pooh, you will see people you know in each of them....Eyeore's negative thinking, rabbit's almightier than thou attitude, Piglet's everyday fears based off of his size, Kanga and Roo's epitome of a parent/child relationship, Owl's determination to show everyone how smart he is, when in fact, he really isn't, Tigger's care-free attitude where nothing really bothers him, except when his feelings are hurt, and good old Pooh bear. He's ok with himself, he knows he's not perfect, he knows that he isn't the smartest animal around, but his heart is huge, he cares for others. If only we could all be like Pooh bear.

When I eat cake at home, I put it in a bowl with milk and eat it with a spoon. Don't judge me.

I have a weakness for Peeps and cotton candy, in that order. Oh, and marshmallows, but I suppose those fall under the Peep category.

One of my favorite things to see is someone tripping and falling. I wouldn't laugh (out loud) if they got hurt, but I would if they jumped up and pretended like nothing happened. Come on, we've all done that before.

I have a weakness for American Idol. I don't know why.

I used to watch Survivor all of the time, but it seems like every few years or so, Dion and I miss a season. I think this is that season.

I think I need more hobbies......

Thursday, February 02, 2006

I Was Going to.....

....do a little writing, but I made some popcorn and now Dion says that we have to watch a movie. Well, if we must......

Wednesday, January 25, 2006

Another Lost Friend

Today we said our final goodbye to Annette. The demon cancer has taken another one of us. Not without a fight though. I don't think Annette knew the battle her body was capable of fighting. I don't think any of us did.

Today was her funeral, and as I sat in the packed little church, watching the grief spill from one family member's face to the next, I had a hard time coming to the reality of it all. The reality is that Annette is no longer in pain. No more stomach cramps, vomiting, huge amounts of pain medicine, weakness, fears, and watching her family watch her suffer. And while it is so hard to accept that her earthly life is over, I know she is finally happy, free of pain, and patiently waiting for the time that her family meets her on the other side. She will be wearing orange and her great big smile, and the first thing she will say is, "How are you doing?" That was Annette. She cared for others, asking how they are, no matter how she was herself. The look of concern in her eyes was deep, and will be again, the next time we meet.

The funeral was that like no other I have been. From the readings to the music, it was all Annette. So, with that in mind, I am including a poem from the program that says everything.



God saw you getting tired,
And a cure was not to be.
So He put His arms around you
And whispered, "Come with Me."

With tearful eyes we watched you suffer
And saw you fade away.
Although we loved you dearly,
We could not make you stay.

A golden heart stopped beating,
You're now at peaceful rest,
God broke our hearts to prove to us,
He only takes the best.

So Annette, please watch over all of those you love, and know that your image will be seen every day through nature, music, laughter, tears, and memories.

Tuesday, January 24, 2006

A New Flaska Adventure

Well, it's Tuesday night, the girls are asleep and Dion is in Texas and I am lost as to what I should be doing. Wait, I take that back. I know I should be cleaning and doing laundry, but I'm not. And it feels good. I am so far surviving another stretch of being a single parent. This is the fifth month in a row that Dion has had to go out of town for work, and not just for a day or two. These are almost week long trips. He comes back on Thursday night at about 10 PM. Each month I say the same thing, "I give single parents so much credit". And I do. It is hard work with a significant other. It is purely exhausting alone.

So I know you are anxious to hear about the new Flaska adventure, and I am just as anxious to tell the story, so here it goes.....

This past weekend we decided to pack up the kids and tool out to the Mall of America to what was formally known as Camp Snoopy, but is now known as The Park at the Mall (until a new sponsor steps up. Rumor has it Sesame Street will be it....I dread 100 foot Elmos all over the place giggling like fools). We buy our tickets to get on the ride and find out that as parents (chaperones, as they call it) we get to ride for free. Score. We head over to the merry-go-round, since Claire liked it so much last year, thinking the same thing would happen this year. And it did. We waited in line, trying to keep Claire from plowing over other children and make it to the front. Claire picks a nice horse to ride on, and Nadia gets the ostrich next to Claire's horse. To be honest, they are kind of freaky looking, and really don't belong around kids. But that's another story.

The teenager makes the announcement that we are about to start and we are giddy with anticipation. And it starts. We go around about 2 times, enjoying the scarey music and waving at strangers when Nadia decides that the ride sucks. She wants off in a big way. She's reaching for Dion and crying, so he pulls her off the horror movie ostrich and holds her. Soon there after the ride slows down. I was thinking what a rip off. We only went around about three times. The teenager announces that the ride isn't over, so everyone should stand still. It seemed over to me, but what did I know? Then it happened. Dum dum dummmmmmm....teenager came over to us. To us? What was going on? Well, it seems that chaperones are not allowed to hold their children and Dion would have to find a bench/cart seat to sit on with Nadia. Oops. I kind of laughed since Dion was the one who got in trouble and made the rest of the horse riding kids wait. I didn't laugh for too long. Everyone (and by everyone, I mean Dion and Nadia) got situated and the ride began....again. Claire was still excited and told me to get up on the ostrich that Nadia was riding. Sure. Why not? I climbed aboard and proclaimed "Weeeeee!" until I heard teenager make an announcement over the PA. Again. "If you are a chaperone, you must stand by your child." Oops. I was pretty sure she was referring to me. Now, I didn't cause the ride to stop again, but being shame-shamed by the teenager was enough. Crap. We got off of the merry-go-round, and honest to goodness, we never went back. In fact, we didn't even walk BY the merry-go-round. Teenager probably would have made another announcement about the side of the walkway we were pushing the stroller on.

There you have it....our adventure. We can now say that we caused the merry-go-round at the Park in the Mall to stop it's operation, AND were chastised by a teenage girl earning her $6.15 an hour. Ok, I don't know if that's what they make, but she probably thinks she needs a raise after dealing with the Flaska's.

Friday, January 20, 2006


Doesn't she look happy?

My little eskimo

The Good Fight

I have talked before about my co-worker's daughter fighting pancreatic cancer. She is now looking down on us, free of pain, free of sorrow, free of her demon. Annette passed away last night at 11:00PM with her kids, boyfriend, and mom by her side. I have never known anyone as strong as Annette, never known anyone to fight as long and hard. I feel honored just to have known her. There was never a time that she didn't ask how I was doing, in the midst of all of her suffering, her pain, she asked. Always.

Here's to Annette's memory, her family, her life. May she rest in peace, looking down on us, watching us, guiding us. She'll be deeply missed.

Just One Little Break...Please

If you can hardly even believe it, I had the flu AGAIN last Sunday and Monday. And by again, I mean it's the third time since the beginning of December. Thank God the rest of the family didn't get it again too. Flu shot? I will never never ever ever never ever get one again. Ever.

Work has been kicking me into the ground. I have been doing 12 hour days trying to train in new people, covering shifts, doing my own job, and playing catch up. I take that back. Yesterday was 12 and a half hours, but who's counting? I have been at the Sunnyside Elementary location and haven't seen the Burnside Elementary kids since last week. I opened and closed the program last night and got to catch up on how the kids are doing, which was nice. We played soccer in the gym and had a blast. I was called a chicken by one the boys, which I readily admitted to being. The last thing I wanted was a soccer ball in the face. I did score one time. I know, I know. I guess I really shouldn't brag about scoring against the 10 year olds. But in my defense, I scored on an adult.

My mom had her second hernia surgery this past Tuesday. I wish I could have been there for her, but I had to be at work at 6 AM, then had to haul butt to Rochester for treatment, then back to close the program. All in all the surgery went well, and she is banking on this being her last time being up close and personal with her doctor. I think we are all hoping the same for each of us.

So here I sit today at home. I haven't had my Fridays off since Oct 4th. I almost don't know what to do. I think I will put my dehydrater to work, and maybe the slow cooker too. The girls are doing well. I felt sad this week. They spent 43 1/2 hours in daycare Monday through Thursday. It was a long week for everyone. Dion leaves Monday for work until Thursday. Sigh. Someday I will be refreshed. Someday I will get some time for just myself. Someday.

Thursday, January 05, 2006

And the Puke Goes On

I spoke too soon. Claire woke up this morning at 4AM throwing up in her bed. I am at home now (I was supposed to work 6-6 today) taking care of 3 sick people. Dion started out being the caretaker, since I was supposed to open and close the program today. I had no one else, I had to go in. Then I get a call and by 10:30AM I am out the door trying to figure out what I was going to do for the afternoon part of the program.

Long story short (one does not have much time when vomit is involved), a sub was finally found, thank God, and here I sit in the land of ice cream pails, blankets covering the floor and couch, and not a whole lot of food. Damn, life is good......

Wednesday, January 04, 2006

Happy Pukey New Year!

Now at first glance, it may seem that I am being negative about this new year that has graced our presence, but really I am not. It really has been a pukey year thus far. In fact, the barf-o-rama started of course on New Year's Eve. I have gone on record that I will never take another mixed drink made by our neighbor. Beer? Anyday. White Russian? Never again. Of course, he seems to think that I am lying and will fall in to his temptation of fine liquor. So here's how the past week has gone.....

New Year's Eve.....Dion, Claire, Nadia, & I are invited next door for a little get together with other young parents and their kids. Shortly after arriving, Claire is complaining of a tummy ache, and her eyes are looking kind of funny. Long story short, Dion takes her home, I stay with Nadia. At this point there are about 10-12 kids at the party all under 7. Fertile Myrtles in this town. So Nadia and I hang out for a while, I call next door to see how Claire is doing...yadda yadda yadda, it's time for Nadia to go to bed. I walk her next door, put her in bed, and get the "all clear" to go back next door from Dion. Blah blah blah....White Russian, White Russian, beer, beer, go home (there could have been one or two more beers in there, I'm not sure). Claire wakes up, so I go up to her room and snuggle with her for a bit. Then it hits. Gurgle gurgle gurgle. The White Russians and the Beers are in combat with each other, having no sympathy for the innocent bystander (me), and the ending result is that no one is the winner. So I swish some water in my mouth and brush my teeth and go back to Claire who at this point wants to go into our bed. Okey-dokey. Dion is asleep on the couch, so it's off to our room Claire and I go. Zzzzz.....zzzzz.....zzzzz...."MOMMY!" YAK! Hmmm. And in our bed. I clean her up roll up all the sheets, and we head back downstairs to the couch. Dion heads upstairs to the spare room and we all sleep the rest of the night away.

New Year's Day.....Claire and I are out of commission, Claire with a fever, I with a hangover. We spend the day on the couch....literally....and eventually all is well. Claire is feeling better, I am feeling not too shabby, just in time for a post-Christmas get together with my parents, sister, and uncle the next day.

2nd Day of the New Year.....Talk talk talk....eat eat eat....open gifts open open....ahhhh....relax after a nice meal cooked by my better half. Fast forward a few hours when my tummy starts feeling not so good. Hmm. A familiar feeling. I tell Dion of my woes, and at 8:00 PM he goes out for Pepto for me. He was about 5 minutes too late. I don't think I have ever been that violently ill. And that whole meal Dion cooked, made a second appearance. Ugh. I go to bed.

3rd Day of the New Year.....more puke, screaming cha cha's, puke, cha cha, etc etc etc. I called Mayo to cancel my treatment for the day, and the lady of the phone said "Should we re-schedule for tomorrow?" And I am thinking, ok, an hour drive each way....do I bring a bag to barf in or a portable toilet to cha cha in, or both? I opted to call the next day if I felt better. My mom came over like she does every Tuesday, but instead of me leaving, I kept the bed from levitating all day long. Again, I mean literally. I got up to hit the bathroom a few times and to get some water, but that was it. What would I do without that mother of mine?

4th Day of the New Year....I go back to work and snack on crackers all day as my tummy is not 100% quite yet. And might I add here, that when we discussed the last surgery I had, we didn't talk about the difficulty in puking when you are missing those stomach muscles. I am convinced that is the reason of the violent-ness of the flu. I had to work harder to get everything out. Anyway, I went to Mayo in the afternoon, and proclaimed that I was NEVER going to get a flu shot ever again (this was my first year getting it...I have had the flu twice in the past month). And stop thinking to yourself, "Well the flu shot really is for blah blah blah......" I've heard it. It doesn't change the fact that I haven't had the flu like this in a long time, and my mind is made up.

So there you have it. Our New Year of Puke. Hopefully we are done with it, I don't think I could handle much more of the vomiting scene. And now I have to go to bed since I have to get up at 4:30 AM to go to work.

Friday, December 30, 2005

Tax Season


Ahhhh...the dreaded tax season is approaching. While others involuntarily shiver, or say naughty words under their breath about tax season, I rejoice. I sing a song of hope, and do a dance of joy, and file our taxes by the end of January if I can. You see, for our family, this means we will be crawling out of a hole that medical bills have thrown us into for the past 2 years. A hole that likes to taunt and tease, and is just plain mean. So we crawl out, grab a shovel and fill the hole....until the bills start coming again. And again. And again......

Here's some factoring that I have done to give you an idea of how much we depend on our tax returns. Oh where to start? How about the miles I have driven this past year for medical appointments? That's a good place to start....try over 5000. 5000 miles ticking by in the car....tick tick tick (plus another 4997 ticks, but I will spare you). And I believe you get a $.485 deduction for each mile, which we all know is a crock since the cost of gas this past year has been horrendous. But, it's something.

Then there's the $4000 max out of pocket for my medical bills, which is awesome considering that each week that I go to Mayo costs over $1000, and that's if I only have treatment. No including any scans or blood work, or chatting with the doctors. Ok, let's chat about teeth, shall we? I have had quite a bit of work done to try and fix the damage done from chemo and bad genes. How much? How about close to $4000? Hmm. Can you see the money going down the drain? I can, I reach and reach, but there it twirls in a little tornado and SLURP! It's gone.

Drugs. I think we cough up over $100 a month for our every day drugs, then you throw in the good stuff from surgeries and such. I still have to get the final total on those, but I think last year we spent about $1500 on pills.

Now you figure in all the fun stuff, like contact lenses, the shower chair I got for after surgery, and the sitz bath. Things like that add up fast, my friend, which is why I save receipts.

Add in the cost of daycare, our deductibles and such, and I can't WAIT to get that refund check into our account!

So, now you can understand the anticipation I am feeling for tax season. Of course, all it will take will be a month before I hit my max out of pocket expense, and we will be back to crawling out of that hole. Oh well. It will be a nice month while it lasts.